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Preparing for Marriage, along with the accompanying Leader’s Guide, were developed to help engaged couples prepare for the important task of building a Christian marriage. This resource provides engaged couples opportunities to develop good communication skills and deal with issues of personal expectations, family histories, role responsibilities, communication, finances and the traits of a biblical marriage. It encourages the development of a mentoring relationship with an older married couple.  Each session includes informative Bible study, discussion questions and special projects to be completed by the couple to reinforce the topic of the session. The study can be used by counselors, groups or individual couples.  Has 6 sessions

Countless couple today face major marital struggles. Dr. Gary Chapman communicates genuine hope for every marriage- even for those with deeply rooted wounds. Chapman provides positive steps for dealing with spouses who are:

• Workaholics
• Controlling
• Uncommunicative
• Physically, verbally, or sexually abusive
• Unfaithful
• Alcoholic or drug-abusing
• Depressed
• Irresponsible

This groundbreaking volume applies the concepts of systemic family therapy to the emotional life of congregations and their leaders. Challenging many of the conventions of pastoral counseling, Edwin H. Friedman shows how family theory points to a less stressful approach to the full range of the clergy's responsibilities. He also illuminates how congregational dynamics can be a useful model for the study of any family enmeshed in larger systems, and how such systems can themselves be viewed as "families."

Friedman compares the emotional processes at work within individual families to those in church and synagogue, suggesting that clergy can often do more to help families by the way they lead their congregations than they can through specific counseling interventions. Specific topics examined in depth include leadership through self-differentiation, managing separations in families and in congregations, and the influence of previous generations upon life cycle events. The power of the family model is clearly demonstrated in numerous examples drawn from Friedman's own extensive experience as a rabbi and practicing family therapist and from many other rabbis, priests, nuns, and ministers with whom he worked.

Both clergy and lay leaders will find that this book directly addresses the dilemmas and crises they encounter daily, while family therapists and other helping professionals may wish to recommend it to students and clients as a lucid introduction to family processes.